Dear Jessica,
Listen, daughter of mine.
Never date a man who feels the need to stifle your freedom. Men who feel intimidated by your desire to have your own thoughts concerning your life; your body; your time; your space; your art; your mind.
Freedom (n) : The power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint.
You see, daughter of mine. Such men have nothing to bring to your life other than stress, heartaches and headaches.
Steer away from men who feel entitled; men who think you owe them your entire life just because they “love” you. Love does not suffocate; neither does it rob you of your freedom. Run!
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It won’t be easy, I can assure you. But it will be worth it. Eventually, you will find men who are not afraid to let you roam and wander the world because they are secure in the knowledge that come what may; you will always find your way back home; to his arms.
Shela jetty, Lamu Island: April 2017
Canduh 
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